Love for an animal is one of the most beautiful things that can be experienced in life and, in contrast, its loss, one of the most painful experiences. Unfortunately, grief over pets is still very misunderstood, even a taboo subject, and people who experience the loss of their pets find the added difficulty of social misunderstanding when it comes to going through their grief.
A dog, a cat, a bird, a hamster, a rabbit, a turtle...they are not just animals, they are part of the family, so detracting from their loss doesn't help at all. Fortunately, another part of society is aware of this, which is why we want to contribute to coping with the pain caused by the loss of your pet with a list of "nice goodbye phrases to my pet".
A misunderstood duel
Not all people are capable of establishing a genuine bond with their pets, but those who do know very well what it means to experience such a loss.
Losing a pet really hurts.It hurts a lot, and this is confirmed by scientific studies such as the one carried out by the Department of Animal Sciences at the University of Hawaii (United States) according to which, “30% of owners feel pain for six months or more due to the loss of their pet”, while "for un 12% suppose a very traumatic event in their lives”. In this sense, Dr. Thelma Duffey (2005) also assures from the University of Texas (San Antonio), that " the loss of a pet is generally experienced as a painful experience.
Therefore, once it is clear to us that it is one more mourning, which hurts the same as that of a person (sometimes more, according to some testimonies), the task remains to sensitize the population to the pain experienced by people who lose much more than an animal. It is important to eradicate social taboo that exists around mourning the loss of pets and avoid phrases like: “what does it matter, it was just an animal”, “do you really get like that because of the loss of a dog?”, “well, adopt another one”, etc. They are hurtful and insensitive phrases, which, far from helping the person who is grieving, harms them even more because they invalidate their pain.
No one would think of saying at the funeral: "Why are you crying? It's just a parent...adopt another", or a mother who has lost her baby, "don't cry, you'll have another one". The person who leaves is irreplaceable in the heart of those who are forced to say goodbye. The mother who loses her baby will not heal her grief by having another, at least not immediately; the son who loses a father will not be able to replace him with another, etc. It is necessary to integrate this loss through all the phases of mourning and then it will be time to decide whether to have another baby, another pet... Some people decide not to have any more animals, others, on the other hand, with time, find themselves capable of filling their lives with love with a new animal company... that will be a decision very personal.
Nice goodbye phrases to my pet
Saying goodbye out of obligation and not by choice is very painful: when our pet dies, all the moments spent with her go away with her.
Animals are noble and innocent creatures that offer unconditional love to their owners, and such a display of generosity is worthy of being reciprocated with the best of care and affection. Therefore, when they leave, they leave a great void in our hearts.
Sometimes, writing a journal can be cathartic or just reading sentences empathetic with the pain that is being suffered. For this reason, from Postposmo we want to help you get through these hard times with a list of "nice goodbye phrases to my pet":
- Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.
- Here rest the remains of a creature that was beautiful without vanity, strong without insolence, brave without ferocity and had all the virtues of man and none of his defects.
- Now that you are no longer by my side, I can only hope that, wherever you are, you feel the warmth of my love. Well, it will always last.
- Do you know why I miss you so much? You were my friend since I was born, we grew up together. I will always have you in my heart.
- The greatest lesson in love was given to me by someone who did not speak the same language as me.
- No one like you will ever know how to transform sorrows into joys in such a simple way.
- There was not a single day by your side in which tears did not turn into smiles.
- You were always by my side through thick and thin, you never judged me. So much for thanking you and you are no longer here.
- When I grow up I want to be like you: kind, loving and optimistic.
- They say that there is no love like that of a dog to its master. However, my love for you was just as intense and deep.
- I'm sorry if one day I couldn't dedicate the time you needed or for not having given you much love, today that you're gone I realize how valuable you were to me.
- I will miss waking up with your nose in my face; the best sign that it would be a good day.
- This is not a goodbye forever, because you will always be in my heart.
- You were, are and always will be my best friend.
- Thank you for teaching me to enjoy life. You have been my best teacher.
- Even when you had no strength left, you always did everything for me.
- You have always been worth more than most people I know. I hope you never forget it.
- We played together, we did sports almost every day and once in a while we did more than one mischief. You don't know how sad I feel because you're gone, however, I learned to be humble and compassionate thanks to you.
- Angels don't always look like humans; sometimes they are 4-legged. Today I know that you are one of them, friend.
- Meditate at sunset, looking at the stars and petting your dog. It is an infallible remedy.
- Nobody said that I would lose you so soon, I miss you so much friend.
- It doesn't matter if an animal can reason. We know they can suffer, and for that alone we should already consider them our neighbors.
- Dogs may not be your whole life, but they make your life complete.
- I know that you are in a place where you no longer suffer from that disease that took you away from us, we miss you very much.
- If I had to choose someone to trust... I would choose my dog. Until now, he's the only one who hasn't told anyone my secrets.
- I send you a kiss to heaven, because I know that from there you are still my best companion.
- A true friend leaves a mark on your heart.
- All knowledge, all questions and answers... are found in a dog.
An inspiring poem: Pablo Neruda's beautiful verses to his deceased dog
If there is someone who was able to write with great mastery some “nice goodbye phrases to my pet” that was Pablo Neruda, who dedicated a beautiful poem to his dog after his death. We could not say goodbye without offering you such an emotional dedication, we hope you enjoy it:
My dog died.
I buried him in the garden
next to an old rusty machine.
There, not below,
nor higher,
Will he meet me sometime?
Now he already left with his fur,
his rudeness, his cold nose.
And I, a materialist who does not believe
in the heavenly promised sky
for no human,
for this dog or for all dogs
I believe in heaven, yes I believe in a heaven
where I will not enter, but he waits for me
waving its fan tail
so that when I arrive I have friends.
Oh I will not say the sadness on earth
of no longer having him as a companion
that for me was never a server.
He had the friendship of a hedgehog towards me
who retained his sovereignty,
the friendship of an independent star
with no more privacy than necessary,
no exaggerations:
did not climb on my wardrobe
filling me with hair or scabies,
it didn't rub against my knee
like other sexually obsessed dogs.
No, my dog was looking at me giving me the necessary attention
the necessary attention
to make a vain understand
that being a dog he,
with those eyes, purer than mine,
he wasted time, but he looked at me
with the look that reserved for me
all her sweet, her furry life,
his silent life,
close to me, never bothering me,
and without asking me for anything.
Oh how many times I wanted to have a tail
walking with him along the shores of the sea,
in the winter of Isla Negra,
in the great solitude: up the air
trespassing of glacial birds
and my dog jumping, shaggy,
full of moving marine voltage:
my stray and sniffing dog
hoisting his golden tail
facing the ocean and its foam.
merry, merry, merry
as dogs know how to be happy,
with nothing else,
with the absolutism of shameless nature.
There is no goodbye to my dog that has died.
And there is no lie between us.
He already left and I buried him, and that was it.